Navigating Life as a Multiracial Autistic Adult
Table of Contents
Intro
The Intersection of Being Multiracial and Autistic
Growing Up Undiagnosed: Late Diagnosis and Self Discovery
Identity, Authenticity and the Power of Support
Challenges Multiracial Autistic Adults Face
Conclusion
Navigating Life as a Multiracial Autistic Adult
Autism shows up differently for everyone, but the experience becomes even more layered for people who are both multiracial and autistic. Their journey often includes questions about belonging, identity and how the world responds to them. Many navigate cultural expectations while also managing the social and sensory differences that come with being on the spectrum, which can make their story very different from what most people imagine when they think about autism.
This is why conversations like the one with Dr. Angel Durr matter so much. Dr. Durr is a researcher, educator and advocate whose work focuses on data equity and social systems, and she brings a powerful personal perspective as a multiracial autistic woman. Her insight is rare because she speaks from both lived experience and academic expertise. She understands how race, culture and neurodiversity overlap in ways that are often overlooked in traditional discussions about autism.
In this episode, she opens up about identity, late discovery and the journey of understanding herself more fully. She guides listeners through the challenges and strengths that come with holding more than one marginalized identity. Her story shines a light on what it truly means to navigate life at the intersection of race and neurodiversity, and why representation matters for everyone on the spectrum.
The Intersection of Being Multiracial and Autistic
Being multiracial often comes with its own set of questions and complexities. Many multiracial individuals grow up moving between cultures, traditions and expectations, sometimes feeling like they are balancing multiple identities at once. There can be moments of connection and pride, but also moments when they feel unsure of where they fit, or how others see them.
When you combine this experience with autism, the story becomes even more layered. A multiracial autistic person is not only navigating cultural differences, but also the neurological differences that shape how they communicate, process emotions and interact with the world. This can create a double sense of difference.
They may feel culturally different because they do not fully match any single racial group. At the same time, they may feel neurologically different because of the social and sensory traits that come with being on the spectrum. Moving through these two worlds often means learning different sets of rules, expectations and social cues. It can be exhausting, but it can also lead to a deep understanding of identity and resilience.
Many people in this position talk about the experience of not fitting neatly into one box, whether that box is racial identity or neurotypical behavior. Instead, they learn to create their own space and define who they are on their own terms.
Growing Up Undiagnosed: Late Diagnosis and Self Discovery
Dr. Angel Durr’s journey with autism did not begin with early intervention or a childhood diagnosis. Instead, she spent many years moving through school, relationships and work without knowing she was autistic. Like many women and people of color, her traits were overlooked, misunderstood or labeled as something else. This led her to grow up without a clear explanation for why certain things felt harder, more draining or more confusing than they seemed to be for everyone else.
For years, she became an expert at masking. Masking is the act of hiding or suppressing autistic traits in order to fit in. She learned to study people, copy their behavior and adjust her reactions so she would blend into social settings. Although masking helped her avoid judgment, it came with a heavy cost. It often left her exhausted and unsure of who she really was beneath the performance.
Social expectations also brought a lot of confusion. Dr. Durr talks about moments when she did not understand why people reacted the way they did, or why certain interactions felt awkward or overwhelming. Without a diagnosis, she often blamed herself or tried harder to force behaviors that did not feel natural.
On top of that, she dealt with sensory challenges without having the language to describe them. Bright lights, loud environments or unexpected changes could send her into distress, but she pushed through because she thought she simply had to manage it. Not knowing the root cause made everything feel more isolating.
Everything began to make sense once she received her diagnosis as an adult. It was a turning point that brought clarity, relief and a deeper level of self compassion. Instead of asking what was wrong with her, she started to understand how her brain worked. The diagnosis helped her reclaim parts of herself she had hidden away and allowed her to build a life that supported her needs rather than fighting against them.
Her story of self discovery is powerful. You can hear the full conversation on the podcast.
Identity, Authenticity and the Power of Support
As Dr. Angel Durr grew into adulthood, she began to embrace the full picture of who she was: both her racial identity and her autistic identity. Instead of choosing one over the other or hiding parts of herself to make others comfortable, she learned to stand in her truth. This shift took time, but it allowed her to connect more deeply with her own experiences and build a stronger sense of self.
Authenticity became a major part of her healing. When someone spends years masking or trying to fit into roles that do not reflect who they are, it takes a toll on their mental health. Dr. Durr explains that embracing her identity brought a sense of relief and belonging she had not felt before. It helped her form healthier relationships and surround herself with people who accepted her without conditions.
Her journey also showed her how important culturally aware professionals are. Many autistic individuals of color struggle to get accurate assessments because some providers do not understand how culture, race and neurodivergence can intersect. When professionals do not consider these layers, signs of autism can be missed or misread. Culturally informed support allows people to be seen more clearly and treated with respect.
Supportive environments also make a significant difference. This means workplaces, schools and communities that create space for sensory needs, communication differences and cultural identity. When people feel safe to be themselves, they are more likely to thrive.
Representation within autism narratives is another point she highlights. Many stories about autism focus on a narrow group, often leaving out women, people of color and multiracial individuals. This lack of representation can make people feel invisible or misunderstood. Dr. Durr’s story pushes back against that silence and reminds others that their experiences matter too.
Most importantly, she reinforces that support is not about fixing autistic traits. It is about helping people grow, succeed and live in alignment with who they are. Support should empower rather than erase differences.
Challenges Multiracial Autistic Adults Face
Multiracial autistic adults often navigate a unique set of challenges that are not widely discussed. Dr. Angel Durr highlights how these experiences can shape a person’s sense of identity, belonging and emotional wellbeing. Her story offers a clear window into what it feels like to live at the intersection of race and neurodiversity.
One major challenge is dealing with racial stereotypes while also managing communication differences associated with autism. For example, Dr. Durr shares that people sometimes misinterpreted her quietness or need for space as an attitude problem or a cultural trait, instead of recognizing these reactions as part of her neurodivergent experience. These incorrect assumptions added a layer of pressure, because she felt she had to avoid reinforcing any stereotypes about her racial background.
Another challenge is the lack of representation in autism research and public conversations. Many stories center on white males, which leaves women and people of color feeling as if their experiences do not fit the typical autism narrative. Dr. Durr explains that growing up, she almost never saw autistic individuals who looked like her, which made it harder to imagine that autism could be part of her story.
Dr. Durr also talks about how difficult it can be to access a culturally responsive diagnosis. Some professionals are not trained to understand how autism traits can appear differently across cultures. As a result, behaviors may be dismissed, misinterpreted or attributed to culture instead of neurodiversity. This was part of the reason her autism was missed for so long.
Masking adds another emotional strain. Multiracial autistic adults may feel they have to hide parts of themselves to avoid judgment about their race and also hide autistic traits to meet social expectations. Dr. Durr describes how this double masking left her exhausted and disconnected from her true self.
Finally, many multiracial autistic adults feel unseen or misunderstood within both communities. They may feel too autistic to fully fit into their racial groups, yet too culturally different to feel understood in neurodivergent spaces. Dr. Durr explains that she often felt like she was standing between worlds, not fully accepted by either.
Her experiences show why inclusive conversations about race and neurodiversity are so important. Her story opens the door for others who share these challenges to know they are not alone.
Conclusion
Sharing stories like Dr. Angel Durr’s is essential because they shine a light on experiences that are often overlooked. Her journey illustrates the complexities of navigating life as both multiracial and autistic, and it encourages others to embrace their full identities without compromise.
Her story reminds us that understanding oneself and accepting every part of who we are—culturally, racially and neurologically, can be a source of strength and empowerment. By embracing authenticity, individuals can find a sense of belonging and create spaces where they can truly thrive.
Celebrating neurodiversity across cultures not only benefits those directly affected but also enriches communities, schools and workplaces. It teaches us to value difference as a source of perspective, creativity and resilience.
To hear Dr. Angel Durr’s inspiring story firsthand, tune in to the full podcast episode here.